So tonight during our college service at church, we had this panel with my church's pastor, his wife, my college minister, his wife, and another couple that attends our church as well. It was basically so that we could ask questions about how to have a truly Godly relationship (dating, marriage, love, sex, etc.). It was pretty awesome :) It got me thinking about my own (lack of) relationship and why, in fact, I am single and have been for.... well, forever.
Basically, I have always had high standards. I don't believe in casual dating at all. Dating is really serious and shouldn't be taken lightly. So, therefore, I'm waiting for God's best for me. I'm not settling for second best just because I want to be dating someone. My standers for the guy and the actual relationship are pretty high, but not impossible (at least.... I don't think they are.... X]). I'm not going to settle for the first guy that comes up to me and says "you're hot, wanna be my girlfriend?" (I almost did that but thankfully I listened to God when he told me "NO, NOT THAT ONE!")
I have always hated seeing my friend's relationships fall apart because of some stupid argument. Through watching my friend's relationships, I have learned a lot about what to do and what not to do. One of the biggest things is: DON'T THINK THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT YOU. IT ISN'T. The most successful relationships that I have seen (aka the marriages that last the longest, happiest couples, etc.) are the ones that both the man and woman are totally humble and selfless, dedicating their relationship to God and basically just serving the other person. That's the way that all relationships need to be: totally selfless and, above all, God-centered.
So that's what I want: a guy who will not only take care of me, but that I can take care of. A guy that I love so much that it becomes a selfless love. And, most definitely, a guy who is more in love with God then he is with me. So what if I have to wait another ten or even twenty years? If it takes that long for God to send in my perfect guy, my "knight in shining armor" if you will, then so be it.
On a totally different note, I'm rewatching The Office. I had forgotten how frustrated yet happy Jim and Pam's relationship made me during the first few seasons. X]
So that's it for now! Please keep me in your prayers in the upcoming weeks. I'm getting some operations done on my mouth soon and basically we just need wisdom for some upcoming decisions regarding the operations. Fun stuff :P
Love you all!
-Andrea
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